Freedom of sprite

 Chinese_American children struggle with depression, stress and low self-esteem for achieving high academic points than their parallel achieving American peer, and the reason tie up parenting style. Amy Chua, writer of "Why Chinese Mothers are Superior" mentioned "Western parents are concerned about their children's psyches. Chinese parents aren't. They assume strength, not fragility, and as a result they behave very differently"(3). Because of this, tiger moms demand excellent grades because they believe their kids can get them. If children can't get it, they assume they are not working hard. So Chines moms would take a lot of practice tests and work through with their child until their grades go up to an A. If they are  still imperfect and do not complete their duties, Chinese parents punish and shame the child. Amy adds an authoritarian parent "believes that their child will be strong enough to take the shaming and to improve from it" (4). In contrast, permissive parents worry about their children's self-esteem and even if they are trapped with same situation they do not talk straight with their kids. They tiptoe around the problem! Easy going parents still worry about their children's test grade but if they don't well, they are concerned about curriculum or challenge the subject how to taught or even bring the question about the school. They make the appointment with principal of the school and criticism the teacher knowledge!

In Chua's story she tells us how she made her 7-year-old daughter sit at the piano without food or bathroom breaks until she mastered a difficult piece. And also, she confesses that she called Sophia garbage once. Unlike Chua, Alan Paul, writer of "Panda Dad" and father of three kids, has a different point of view. He responds to Chua, " ... my wife would not tolerate me calling the kids garbage or chaining them to a piano bench; we would both view this as barbaric and counterproductive" (1). He believes kids have to study constantly but at the same time they have to learn to take responsibility for their homework, play time and other work. He mentioned their house is like a state university, where kids can get great education but they have to learn to do their own work."Doing so allows them to take genuine pride in their accomplishments. They need to succeed for their own benefit, not to prove that their parents are successful" (2). I don't like Amy's parenting style. My point of view is  close to permissive parenting style. You have to feel good about yourself, and then you can do well. Self-criticism and low confidence are against self improving.These discourage children who want to discover herself and her life. She or He can't trust her/his self and others and isolate themselves from others because they feel they are not perfect. They are scared to lose the battle. My experience was like controlling parents style. Achieving high education degree is one of my goals too but I wish I was able to learn how to live happily in my own life instead of doing homework which was too difficult for my age abilities and stopped me from  enjoying my childhood.